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??托福的口语论题里边常常会问到考生如何应对兄弟之间disagreement的论题，咱们先来阅读一下此类标题：
T1 Describe the best way for you to deal with disagreement with your friend?
T2 Do you agree that friends could maintain good relationships when they have disagreements?
T1 Talk about a disagreement you have had with others. What is the disagreement about and what is the consequence?
咱们先放下标题本身，其实兄弟之间定见不合或许发生争论本身就是一件会发生在往常日子中的作业，根柢不存在历来不吵架的兄弟或许情侣，那么我们先来思考一下，你是不是和兄弟有过争论?和兄弟之间的争论都是因何而起?你们之间彼此敌对的观念是不是让你们对彼此有了新的认知?最终成果又是怎样呢?
咱们来温习一下，口语课上教师都告诉我们一个万能理由叫做make friends，尽管很老套，可是真的超级好用，之所以老套也是因为它的万能，可是我在课堂上必定会让学生把make friends拆分红两个可用的观念：
1、根据一起论题(common topics)，经过和兄弟谈天(talk)或许待在一同(stay)，可以和自个的兄弟坚持/增进友谊(maintain close relationship);2、进入一个新的圈子(circle)，遇见新的人群(new group)，然后扩展交际圈(expand social network)，而新兄弟可以给你来的是inspiration。
这两个点可以处置很大一有些的论题，因为你做啥都能发生一起论题和老兄弟发生一些联络然后坚持豪情，或许有机缘进入新圈子结交新的集体给你日子带来构思，那么这两个视点和兄弟间的disagreement有啥相关吗?
咱们这样想：
01 你和兄弟即便对一部影片发生了喜爱/定见的不合，可是你们能变成兄弟不就是根据打篮球的一起喜爱吗?你们即便对旅行意图地的选择发生了不合，可是你们之所以能变成兄弟不就是因为我们都痴迷音乐吗?
观念1: It can be really common that friends might have different opinions sometimes. And this kind of difference actually comes from the education we’ve accepted or the family background we have. In fact, it is the similar point of view on something that can bound us together. For example, if both of my friend and I are big fans of Taylor Swift but we have different preference to food type, we can still be friends cuz we can keep talking about her new album or going for her conc
ert together.
02 发生了disagreement就必定有谁对谁错吗?为啥不把吵架当作是一次对事物从头的认知呢?或答应以让你走出自个相对固定的日子?在拟定旅行方案的时分，住宿就必定要选择你一贯以来喜爱的五星酒店吗?或许你兄弟喜爱的当地名宿也很不错呢?你厌烦的明星就不答应你的兄弟夸一夸吗?或许他的偶像做了许多有爱心的作业(比方慈悲作业)你都没有介意过呢……我们的世界观都不是最无缺的，所以定见不好的时分，我们好好谈论而不是撕B，不是也很有快乐喜爱嘛!
观念2: It might be a great chance for us to know more from a disagreement. For instance, once I had a quarrel with my best friend because when we were making the plan for our travelling, I just wanted to live in a fancy hotel which I always chose before. But she thought we needed to stay in a local inn since the place we were going is an ancient town and we could have a fantastic experience in this special hotel. Finally I agreed with her even though I was not that happy. But in truth, I found that the inn was very cute and we really had a wonderful time in it.
综上，一个好的吵架可以带来啥呢?
1、对兄弟更深化的晓得(哇，正本你是这样的人，我之前都没发现呢!)
2、对事物有新的认知(哇，正本还可以这么玩，我之前都不晓得呢!)
所以，关于文章最初的第一题，发生了disagreement最佳的办法是啥呢?是Long Talk;
第二题，发生了disagreement还能变成好兄弟吗?当然可以啊;
第三题，描绘一次disagreement，那么请随意想一个关于旅行啊，影片啊，学习啊……的论题吧。
期望我们经过这篇文章学会了此类的论题，也期望我们回去跟兄弟/男女兄弟吵更安康的架，因为在我眼里，值得吵的架都是为晓得决疑问，处置不了的疑问为啥要浪费时刻去吵架呢?
作者介绍
姚雯，上海新东方中区教育主管，ETS认证托福培训师，持剑桥大学TKT教师资历证，持哥伦比亚大学Teachers Professional Development证书，2015财年上海新东方优良教师，培育多位托福口语满分学员
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